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it sounds like he should've let her out to go and then went to work, the last thing I do before I leave no matter if they were all out 10 minutes ago, is let them out and tell them to go and mommy has to go to work. first thing in the morning and last thing i do before i go to bed is let them out,, when i was crate training them I would always give them a treat to go into the crate, and sometimes a kong when they were inside of it. remember, your dog likes to be around people and then your boyfriedn is leaving her, he needs to make sure she goes out and takes her time to pee, then goes in the crate with love and a treat and then he can tell he i'll see ya later or something positive, that's what I did , i talked to them and they understood i would be back. maybe she knew she was going in the crate and had to go to the bathroom and so didn't want to wait or go in the crate so she went before he put her in. she needs to be let out and told to go b/c he is going to go to work so she knows that she will have to go now or wait til later. dogs are very smart , mine understand perfectly what to do when I say I am going to work. they know they will be in for awhile. and if they have to go they go.her needs have to taken care of.

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If your dog is showing different behavior, then you need to be viligant in checking things out. Make sure everything between boyfriend and your pup is positive -- peeing can be from fear. I have a rescue that peed everytime he was afraid (we did not know at the time). Once he was secure, loved, and no negative punishment, it all stopped. I believe any new behavior shown by a dog is for a reason that needs to be determined by its loving owner. A trainer could come by and visit with your pup, with boyfriend around and without boyfriend around. Good luck. Take good care of your pup!

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Your dog is submissive.
Peeing when someone talks to them is an expression of being submissive. This sometimes happens around people the dog may even fear for some reason or another.
I have a Boston of 8 yrs. and they do not like to be scolded or yelled at. When I yell at anyone he runs into his cage and shakes terribly. It is their nature. They are very sweet dogs.
And if he does not pay attention to her and love on her. She may feel left out and may be in fear of this new stranger who is bigger.
It would help for him to take her to go potty then lay on the floor and gently rub her tummy and talk softly to her.
I notice if my tone is the slightiest out of normal my boston starts to shake. So, they are very timid sometimes.
Other than that he is blast. He loves everyone and likes other dogs.
I used to have a boyfriend who talked loud all the time and the dog was terrified of him.
And my ex husband used to hit a little dog when I wasn't looking. The dog got so fearful he would hide under the couch, that's how I knew he was doing some thing bad to him.
ALWAYS TAKE YOUR DOG OUTSIDE RIGHT BEFORE OR AFTER COMING OUT OF THE CRATE WITH NO WORDS. IF THE DOG NEEDS ENCOURAGEMENT TO COME OUT OF THE CAGE HAVE A YUMMY PIECE OF FOOD TO GET HER OUT. LEAD HER DIRECTLY OUTSIDE AND CLOSE THE DOOR. LET HER DO HER DEED IN PEACE.Too much talking, high pitch baby talk, and petting can make your dog excited and pee. Remember she is submissive. Even leaning over her will make a submissive dog pee. they think of this as a form of domination and pee. After she pees then pet her from under the neck. All action over the top of her back can bring on that response.
She sounds like a real sweety who is very loving.
My dogs are not all bostons and they follow me around just like a shadow. they think I am the mom leader so they do what comes natural. It is natural for them to folow and be curious to what you are doing. They are just like kids.

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I agree with mathews, my rat terrier is the same way.

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I think your boy friend should be more gentel and kind to your dog.the animals have feelings too,and some people ignore this fact.

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We had some of the same issues with my Chinese Crested, Kendra. She is very submissive and by urinating is showing her submission. I completely agree with Matthews. Because of how we deal with her, she very seldom ever had this issue any more and is much more confident. Also, it is important to have a routine of bathroom times if at all possible. Going out immediately after being removed from the crate and immediately before being returned to the crate is a great idea. Also, don't immediately assume that your boyfriend is at fault. Was she socialized around men? Sometimes relationships just take time. My Koda honestly doesn't care for most other people, however, he tolerates them. It will get better. Hang in there and take it slow. Families are not instant.

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I agree with Matthews.
I had a Boston Terrier for 4 years until recently when she died. She didn't like bath's and would always run & hide at the mention of one, also didn't like to be told what to do.....would run & pout. You have to gentle with them, they listen to you better than you know.