gershepherdsx1
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 | | 12/05/2007 7:39 PM |
| | If your boyfriend is complaining about the responsibilites of caring for a dog, I would show him the door. What would he be like if you had children? Are they going to be sent somewhere else to live once they become to much of a responsiblity. Animals are no different than having a child, they are a living breathing life that needs care. | | | |
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Riosmom
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| | 12/05/2007 8:08 PM |
| | If Ace is happy & loved at your parents & they want to keep him I think he should stay with them UNLESS you are wiling to do whatever is necessary for him to be happy with you. As Pedi said separation anxiety can be dealt with and his activity needs can be met if you are willing to devote the time and make the effort. I also agree with everyone else in that a decision would not have to be made if a BF wanted me to choose between him or my furbabies. There is no question, he would be gone in a heartbeat. In addition, now that my youngest child is over 18 he had better never ask me to choose between him and my furbabies - he would be looking for a new place to live! The issue of taking responsibility for Ace is also a non-issue. If you & your BF live together, then all household responsibilities are shared between you. The bottom line with a BF is that they should never ask you to change a part of yourself. If you give up Ace because of your BF, WHAT IS HE GOING TO ASK YOU TO GIVE UP NEXT????? You never want to be in a relationship where pieces of yourself are chipped away. | | | |
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elesimp
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Posts:105
| | 12/06/2007 2:11 PM |
| | Berner4me would you please give us an update on how things are going with you and your problem? We haven't heard from you...the last post was 10/08. I know some of us in here are upset with things but we are animal lovers and we choose the animals. We are not mean people and we just want our furbabies treated right.
I know I would like to hear how things are going. I was looking at your pictures and it looks like you do love your dog. You have a beautiful pup there and I hope he is doing well. Please post or message me and let me know. I am sure the others would like to hear from you also. Thanks and I pray things are better.
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lovemydobe
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Posts:6
| | 12/08/2007 12:44 AM |
| | HI Berner:
I had this happen to me when I married. I had a horse back then, and right after we got married, he came up with this bright idea that I did not need that horse anymore. Well, my response to him was like this: well dang, guess we need to get this annulled, you knew I had a horse when you asked me to marry you!! I had horses for many many yrs, and he left within 5 yrs. Never ever regretted that fight LOL. Animals are not throw backs. Do people get rid of kids because they are an inconvenience?? Here is the answer: NOT decent God fearing people. May need to take a step back and realize that your interests are not on the same level. Could be a red flag like so many others have noted. I think you and your dog should reunite in a place suitable for you both. Find someone who wants to be a part of your life as well as you apart of his It is all about compromise and communication. AS for me, my pets come first. I could not live with myself knowing I threw away that special love and pleasing eyes of my pets over any one... I WISH YOU THE BEST!!! DOBE | | | |
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kittums2GSheps2
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Posts:90
| | 12/30/2007 10:18 PM |
| | I agree with horseygirltoo. You need to think what is best for your pet. He deserves to be happy.I know it is hard for you. But if it was me I would be glad he was getting the care and attention he needs. i have never had to give up any of my fur kids except to death. So I really feel sorry that you had to give hm up. | | | |
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dobie37
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| | 01/03/2008 8:13 PM |
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Hi! My name is Thom, and I have the same opinion as the majority of people who replied to this posting. I have two black labs that are like children to me. I am very upfront about my dogs. I even took them to Florida to meet a lady that I met on eHarmony. I had my dogs before I met her, and I still have my dogs. However, she knew I had dogs, and knew how I felt about my dogs before meeting. I imagine the boyfriend knew about the dog before dating also. If I met a lady who did not take to my dogs, I would have a discussion about the situation. If there could be no resolution, I would end the relationship. The reason that I would do this is simple. What other restrictions would she try to place upon me in the future? I need a lady that will compliment me; and not try to change me into something that I do not want to become. I believe the same probably applies is this case.
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pettygirl6
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Posts:9
| | 01/22/2008 11:50 AM |
| | I hape everything worked out ok for you! thats a sad story. It's hard I know | | | |
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Berner4me
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Posts:14
| | 07/18/2008 12:46 AM |
| Problem Solved!!
I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who pretty much helped me out here. As of now, I left the crappy appartment, and just moved into a huge house, with a massive fenced in back yard..just perfect for my boy! He comes home in a few weeks, and I couldnt be more happy!!
my boyfriend and I talked. He said that he liked Ace, but there were some major problems with his behavior. My parents saw to it, that Ace is now seperation anxiety free! Much happier! And he even gets excited to hear my voice over the phone!
So, thanks again! I just wanted to let you all know, that everything worked out fine in the end. And Ace will be home soon. Right where he belongs.
As for the BF? He knows his place. I told him, " Its me and Ace, or nothing at all" He got the point.  | | | |
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Dobeluvr
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Posts:134
| | 07/19/2008 7:37 AM |
| | I'm so happy for you, and what a relief you must be feeling!!!!! I think as women we need to express our feelings from the heart so resentment doesnt build and the men know exactly how we feel. Best of luck to you all!! Sandie | | | |
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gershepherdsx1
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Posts:19
| | 08/12/2008 9:48 PM |
| Bring you Berner back with you and tell the boyfriend to deal with it. His treatment of your dog could very well be the same type of treatment he would give kids. Do you really want that? A man who thinks he doesn't need to help in any way with responsibilities. | | | |
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