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nishasomaia
Champion
Posts:1
 | | 11/11/2007 12:54 PM |
| | My first puppy Trouble got hit by a jeep and died yesterday.
My husband and I have been sobbing since...we just cant stop.
We have 6 more dogs, 2 of them are Trouble's daughters, all the rest are rescued off the roads.
I feel guilty to grieve a dog, but it just hurts...I feel nauseous if I think of a jeep tyre going over her.
It happened right outside my gate, she just didnt want to go out and was dragged out, we had a harness for her as she had a tendancy to yank her head out of the collar but were not using it....
I feel terrible, dont know how to help the girls as Trouble was their leader and our favorite child...
she looked beautiful, no external injury and yet she was dead...
I can't stop crying...and I know her doggy years must b over, and she has moved onto better...and all, but it still hurts in the pit of my stomach, having a tough time sleeping...
Help.
Nisha | | | |
| PitterPatt
Best of Breed
Posts:332
| | 11/12/2007 2:06 AM |
| | Nisha
I'm so sorry for your loss.
Unfortunately there are no words that I can write to ease your pain. Please know that you are not alone in your pain. there are those here that feel it too.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Patt | | | |
| Aussiesk9
Champion
Posts:43
| | 11/12/2007 9:41 PM |
| | Nisha...I hope this may help you out a bit.........Nola
I held him for the last time.
Day and night I wept so much, in tears I thought I'd drown.
I searched my soul for comfort, but no peace therein was found.
In great despair, I hit my knees and then began to pray.
"Father will I ever see, my Trouble again someday?"
I raised my eyes and saw an angel standing near a gate.
I sensed an inner peace I'd never felt before that day.
The angel smiled and said to me, "Oh woman of little faith!
God sees every bird that falls; He knows your Trouble's fate.
I have met your little dog, I saw him pass my way.
Your precious dog is still alive; he just walked through this gate.
Paradise is lovelier than you can comprehend.
No pain or grief, no tears or fears, and life will have no end.
God gave to man His only Son, to cover all his sins.
So why would God withhold from you, your pure and loving friend?”
The angel took me by the hand and said, "Now come with me.
A glimpse of paradise I'll give, to you so you can see."
Through the gate and o'er the Rainbow Bridge we did proceed.
Through green valleys filled with flowers, rolling hills and trees.
“Wow, so this is paradise!” The place was filled with joy.
I saw my bully playing there, with dogs and cats and toys.
He also had some doggie treats, and food that he enjoyed.
He'd made a lot of new friends there, including girls and boys.
Then I saw a child come near, and hug my little mate.
She said to him, "I love you so," and kissed him on the face.
The angel said, "The child just crossed the Rainbow Bridge today.
Now she needs a little friend, to love and help her play.
God’s love for her would be enough, in that make no mistake.
But in His love, He knew full well, the child would want a mate.
This is why God called your dog unto this splendid place.
God’s entrusted her with him, ‘til you pass through the gate."
I pleaded, “May I hug them both?!” The angel answered, “No!
You’d violate a sacred site, and now it’s time to go.”
He led me back across the Bridge and through the gate to home.
He left me there with new-found hope and peace within my soul.
If someone ever asks what happens to a dog that dies,
Just give a gentle smile of joy and look them in the eye.
Take their hand and comfort them and tell them not to cry.
For dogs don’t die, they simply cross a bridge to paradise.
By Dan Atcheson (5/2/00)
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| Kentuckydogs
Champion
Posts:1
| | 11/12/2007 10:12 PM |
| | Nisha:
Please go to the following website www.animalsinourhearts.com - They have good information on how to deal with your grief. You should never feel guilty for grieving over your dog who was a family member. They are so important in our lives.
I know the pain you are feeling. I lost three dogs from 2001 to 2006 and I still grieve for them. I miss them every day. One of them died because of neglect from a vet and I feel so guilty about this, it haunts me daily. I am hoping to get some help from this site. I feel I let her down. I loved her so much and she was only 7 years old. A beautiful Lab mix named Hannah. My baby girl.
Please know that you are not alone and that your grief should never ever make you feel guilty. Take care and try the site.
Blessings to you and your babies,
Christy
Aboutkydogs@insightbb.com | | | |
| rodo
Best of Breed
Posts:298
| | 11/13/2007 10:09 AM |
| | Dear Nisha,
I lost one of my babies Oct 3. Dont feel guilty, we all understand here. Sending love to you and all your family.
rodo | | | |
| Zig_Kat
Best in Group
Posts:656
| | 11/13/2007 10:22 AM |
| | HI Nisha,
I'm glad I had the oppertunity to talk with you in chat.
There is always the would haves and should haves and it is so easy to find a way to blame our selves for accidents. But accidents just happen.
I too went through a time when I blamed myself, and tried to find ways to reason my Shadows death. In the end it comes to our beloved pets simply being called home. As tragic as it may be, As painful as it is to us.
You took her off the streets and gave her an abundence of love. You made her time on earth special, as special as she was to you.
Remember her with happiness. | | | |
| LASSIE47
Best of Breed
Posts:281
| | 11/13/2007 5:24 PM |
| | Hi Nisha, Sorry to hear about your loss. There is a lot of great people in chat. Maybe talking with others in chat will help a little. HUGS & Prayers from Helen & Lassie | | | |
| cathyam76
Best of Breed
Posts:385
| | 11/25/2007 1:17 AM |
| | Nisha, {{{{HUGS}}}}
Please don't feel guilty or angry for grieving the loss of Trouble. She is just as much a part of your family as you are. Grieving is a natural reaction for any loss you endure.
Please grant yourself permission to feel all of the feelings that you may experience during this difficult time; after all, they are YOUR feelings, and you are entitled to feel them. It will take time to move from grief, through guilt, anger, denial, all mixed up in no particular order, and finally to acceptance.
As for your girls, you will need to be strong and assume the role of leader. They need your guidance now more than ever. It will be tough, but in doing so, your leadership shall help all of you heal.
An angel was needed in Heaven, and Trouble answered the call.
Wet nose kisses and purrs, and chirps and fin swishes are being sent to you,
Cathy and the Crew | | | |
| Newfs
Posts:0
| | 11/25/2007 12:49 PM |
| | Originally posted by cathyam76
Please grant yourself permission to feel all of the feelings that you may experience during this difficult time; after all, they are YOUR feelings, and you are entitled to feel them. It will take time to move from grief, through guilt, anger, denial, all mixed up in no particular order, and finally to acceptance.
Cathyam___Perfectly said. Your a true "professional". I remember when I needed to have Hospice help with a family member, your words are identical words they said to me, and that is exactly how "us" humans will go thru the process, there is no way around it. By not allowing yourself to grieve, you will never be able to move forward. | | | |
| kittums2GSheps2
Champion
Posts:90
| | 01/02/2008 10:25 PM |
| | I know how you are hurting. I lost 2 of my fur kids this last year. But what happened to trouble was a tragic accident. It was something that you couldn't know would happen. My heart goes out to you and your family. | | | |
| gershepherdsx1
Champion
Posts:19
| | 01/07/2008 7:12 PM |
| | Nisha I am sorry for your loss. Give yourself the time to grieve, Trouble was your child just as much as the two legged kinds are. I have lost 3 of my dogs from 2002 to 2007, I know the pain you feel but the people on this website are happy to listen to you talk and sometimes that is what we need. Her daughters will eventually find there way but they also need time to grieve, my remaining dog is just now getting over his fathers death and that was 9 mos ago. Give them extra attention it will help all of you. | | | |
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